Like… If I go to the plaza in my town this cold afternoon just to watch the stupid Xmas tree I won’t meet a flirty person there right?
I don’t even know why I’m asking this, I won’t do it anyways. Hypothetical I guess
Like… If I go to the plaza in my town this cold afternoon just to watch the stupid Xmas tree I won’t meet a flirty person there right?
I don’t even know why I’m asking this, I won’t do it anyways. Hypothetical I guess
You say it’s “your reality” and “what you have seen,” but what do you mean by that? Are they just platitudes?
You’ve never seen anyone change? You’ve never seen anyone work hard at something and improve?
You say, “if I had been born somewhere else,” but do you think there’s a single place on earth that doesn’t have someone who feels the exact same way you do? I promise you that from the richest suburb in America to the poorest straw hut in Africa, there are people who think that the reason they don’t have love is because of their circumstances and that the whole world is against them.
So what makes you different from them? Why would you succeed if you’d grown up in those places instead of where you are, even when others don’t? Why haven’t you succeeded growing up where you are, even if others have?
Once again, I promise I’m not trying to be a dick. I just want to understand you.
I’m not like that and my environment doesn’t help people like me. I was born weak, I barely got stronger and my family is a Latino family with outdated views plus being an anti social immigrant. All my life has been a boring yet messy life. Nothing changes and I will die alone
Why do you expect things around you to change if you’re not willing to make changes yourself?
Everyone’s life is messy. That’s the human condition.
And you say that nothing changes, but at the same time refuse to change. How can anything change if you don’t?
The things you are doing now are making you miserable, so why keep doing them? The choices you’re making now are making you miserable, so why not try and make different choices.
This isn’t a “change the entirety of who you are right now” thing. It’s a slow change of small decisions.
What if, tomorrow, instead of going to McDonald’s (or whatever fast food you have), you went and sat at a local bar and chatted with people. Even for just an hour.
“I’d hate that,” I hear you say. So? People do things they don’t want to all the time. That’s life. You can’t do something hard for one hour a week? You can’t stretch yourself, even the tiniest bit?
And maybe if you do that for a few months, you get to know someone at that bar. Maybe they invite you to another thing going on in town. Maybe as you develop friends, you start to realize that having relationships with people isn’t as impossible as you’ve built it up in your head to be.
But if you keep choosing McDonalds, nothing will change. If you choose just one hour a week at the local pub, something might. That’s not “changing who you are.” It’s not ego death for God’s sake. It’s one hour a week at a local bar.
So why not take the chance? What do you have to lose?
I don’t drink or smoke. And I hate noise, also I’m tired from work especially during late shift, I don’t go anywhere, not even fast food I just go go back my room, it’s midnight ffs
Plus I never sleep well, so I need more than 8 hours for it