You know the definition of charisma is likability. You say you dont want charisma but want to be liked. Those are literally opposites. Its not a curse, its what you are choosing for yourself. No person is born the way they are throughout their lives. We all change on a daily basis. We make small changes in our behaviour to fit in with others, to be liked and cared for. Thats how humans survived until now. You cant expect a person to like you if you refuse the idea of being likable.

You dont have to be whatever you imagine the ‘friend of everyone guy’ to be like (Im saying it like this because that is not an objective description of a person). You can be any other version of kind likable people.

So make a decision, which do you value more: remaining exactly the same as you are, or romance?

This is it. You don’t have to be a “friend of everyone”, you just have to not be miserable to be around, and pleasant enough to at least one person for them to want to spend time with you.

But these are your choices. You can put in the effort to be more attractive, or you can accept that you won’t attract a partner. But refusing to change, and then complaining that your romantic life isn’t changing either, is just stupid and it makes you even less attractive. No one wants to date a miserable sad sack who thinks the world is out to get them.

Commit to change, or accept your fate. Either way, quit whining about it.