• moonmint@lemmy.worldOP
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      4 months ago

      They have 2 young children together and want to give them a stable, nuclear family upbringing.

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        4 months ago

        Where does ‘separated’ come into it? This sounds like an open relationship. Assuming the other party actually knows, which is doubtful.

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          4 months ago

          They’re separated cause they’re just housemates, don’t have a romantic / sexual relationship anymore. And the wife knows, we talked.

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            4 months ago

            As someone who’s been in a similar situation (they split, but couldn’t afford to move out), I don’t recommend it. Shortly after we split, they got back together.

            The entire situation was a heavy drag on our (short) time together, and is certainly a factor in why we didn’t work out.

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          Agreed, I would personally have more issues with the situation if there are kids involved. An amicable divorce and full engagement from both parents in a shared parenting plan would be way better for the kids than staying together nominally and having outside relationships, IMO.

          To the “is it moral” question, I would start edging to “no” if I thought the kids were being harmed in any way.

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      Depends on the reason, but yeah I would question this. I knew a couple separated with no plans on divorce, but only because they were too poor to afford it. They just separated and lived in different cities, so idk. And no they don’t plan on getting back together. It’s been years.