To make a long story short: lately I’ve been flirting with the idea of getting a boob job. I’m satisfied with my current size and my husband is too, but I know he’d really love it - which makes the whole thing exciting for me. If I were to get it done, I’d technically do it for myself since I’d enjoy it, but my enjoyment would stem from my husband’s enjoyment. If it makes sense. So I’ve been thinking, what really is the line that separates the 2?
Does your husband have experience with women that have had breast implants? If not, I would suggest that you have a frank discussion with him about it.
- Breasts with implants do not feel the same and can be off putting to some people.
- The surgery could negatively impact your sexual pleasure by changing the sensitivity of your breasts.
- There could be negative side effects like infection and/or scar tissue developing around the implant.
There is nothing wrong with deciding to get implants. It is your body afterall. Just make sure you have all the necessary conversations, with your surgeon, with your husband, and with yourself, before you take the plunge.
I’m satisfied with my current size and my husband is too, but I know he’d really love it
You are a complicated person LOL.
Did you know that men are more simple, and easily satisfied?
which makes the whole thing exciting for me.
Warning. Don’t expect too much “special excitement”. Most of us men are enthusiastic about most sizes out there.
If I were to get it done, I’d technically do it for myself since I’d enjoy it, but my enjoyment would stem from my husband’s enjoyment.
This means, you are actually doing it for him.
But you expect a certain reaction from him, and that’s how you (tell yourself that you) are doing it for yourself.
But what if he reacts differently? Is he even allowed to? Only a little bit?
Did you know that men are more simple, and easily satisfied?
Just throwing out some casual sexism, huh?
You may be “simple” but thinking everyone who has the same genitals as you think/feel exactly the same is fucking insane…
And you just say it like it’s the most normal shit ever and as true as the sky being blue.
Sometimes it’s fucking cloudy.
Why are you so upset? They’re saying that most men like all breasts.
I don’t consider “easily satisfied” to be insulting, and the “simple” in this case doesn’t mean stupid. It more closely resembles “direct” than anything else. This isn’t sexism.
No. Mine are super special original individual, and you can never compete, regardless how hard you try.
Would you enjoy it even if he didn’t care? Would you enjoy it even if he leaned against it?
If yes, why?
Perhaps trying to answer these questions would help you clarify your feeling about it.
If you alone are satisfied then it boggles my mind that you would want to put your body through all of that and introduce all those risks
If for your husband then my mind is boggled about ten times harder.
Sorry I’m not really answering your question here, I’m just actually alarmed
You know he’d really love it? Has he said that?
I wouldn’t want my wife to get one. I like her boobs. The idea of her going through surgery and recovery and spending all that money seems like a weird thing to do since we’re both happy.
And what if they look weird afterwards? Like nipples pointing to the ceiling or something.
If it makes you (both) happy, just don’t overanalyze it. You can always dig to a deeper “why”, but what does it matter? If you really want to know, ask yourself (of course hypothetically) “if I left my husband afterwards, would I regret that I had it done?”
That said, something you should absolutely analyze in detail are the risks and physical discomfort and see if you’re OK with that.
You should research the possible complications. Are the risks acceptable for you despite being satisfied with your current size?
There is no such thing as getting a boob job for yourself.
You get a boob job because you feel your attractiveness and value as a person or partner is limited by the size of your breasts. You are getting bigger boobs to appeal to another person, real or imaginary. If you feel your value as a person is lower than if you had bigger boobs, you need therapy, not surgery. If someone else is telling you you need bigger breasts to be more attractive, they are toxic and should have no place in your best life.
Your husband should be providing for you all the external validation you need about your attractiveness. If you feel that he doesn’t value you as much as you would like, talk to him and work together on meeting your validation needs. Keep in mind his perceived lack of adequate interest can be projection or reciprocal due to you not meeting his needs(actually or perceptually), which is common in relationships when things between you have fallen into a comfortable routine.
Couples therapy can be a fantastic tool to help you if the two of you are having difficulty communicating and understanding the issues you may have and making progress towards mutual satisfaction with the relationship.
Personal option: To me, a girl with fake breasts is less attractive because she likely has underlying mental health issues that will manifest in other ways that makes her less attractive as a person regardless of how perfect her Ds are.
